Some helpful links, part I: Autism

I’ve been clearing out my bookmarks lately, which I hadn’t done in about seven years, so there’s a lot to go through, and a lot of the things I put there are “this would be useful to recommend to people someday” things, which go on the bookmarks list and turn invisible and I never do. So to remedy that, here is a new blog series.

Some of these links embedded all nicely, and some didn’t, and I’m not going to go through and make them consistent right now (far too much else going on), and if I find more links on this subject when I go through other folders I may come back and add them to this post.

I have tried to arrange these in a logical progression, but considering that on Sunday I told a friend “my entire wet half is sopping!” when I meant my entire lower half (I had just come inside from getting caught in a downpour), and on Monday that “I saw a specialist who agreed that there’s definitely something going on, but we don’t know whether there’s anything going on” (meaning “we don’t know what is going on”), perhaps you should take that with a grain of salt. . .

http://nosmag.org/autism-self-diagnosis-is-not-special-snowflake-syndrome/

https://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-Signs-of-Autism-in-Yourself

https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Parents-You-Think-You%27re-Autistic

https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Ready-for-an-Autism-Assessment

https://www.wikihow.health/Answer-Awkward-Questions-About-Your-Autism

And finally, a link to a run-of-the-mill questionnaire of the kind they give you at an autism screening: https://www.aspietests.org/userdetails.php?target=/aq/questions.php.

If by this time next month I have not disappeared, never to be seen again, under heaps of government-issued paperwork with associated fees, look out for another links post on whatever subject I’ve dug through by then!

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Music for Holy Week

Maundy Thursday:

Ubi Caritas (Duruflé)

If Ye Love Me (Tallis)

(This is the video I learned this piece from long and long ago in the days of first being part of the adult choir — it was so nice to see that it still exists. I came across the animation separately from the music the other day and — though it had been years — still remembered which parts of the music went with which images.)

In My Father’s House (Stopford)

Good Friday:

“The Agony”, by George Herbert

      Philosophers have measur’d the mountains,
Fathom’d the depths of the seas, of states, and kings,
Walk’d with a staffe to heav’n, and traced fountains:
      But there are two vast, spacious things,
The which to measure it doth more behove:
Yet few there are that found them; Sinne and Love.

      Who would know Sinne, let him repair
Unto mount Olivet; there shall he see
A man so wrung with pains, that all his hair,
      His skinne, his garments bloudie be.
Sinne is that presse and vice, which forceth pain
To hunt his cruell food through ev’ry vein.

      Who knows not Love, let him assay,
And taste that juice, which on the crosse a pike
Did set again abroach; then let him say
      If ever he did taste the like.
Love in that liquor sweet and most divine,
Which my God feels as bloud; but I, as wine.

Ave Verum Corpus (Byrd)

“On A Theme From Julian’s Chapter XX”, by Denise Levertov

Six hours outstretched in the sun, yes,
hot wood, the nails, blood trickling
into the eyes, yes—
but the thieves on their neighbor crosses
survived till after the soldiers
had come to fracture their legs, or longer.
Why single out the agony? What’s
a mere six hours?
Torture then, torture now,
the same, the pain’s the same,
immemorial branding iron,
electric prod.
Hasn’t a child
dazed in the hospital ward they reserve
for the most abused, known worse?
The air we’re breathing,
these very clouds, ephemeral billows
languid upon the sky’s
moody ocean, we share
with women and men who’ve held out
days and weeks on the rack—
and in the ancient dust of the world
what particles
of the long tormented,
what ashes.

But Julian’s lucid spirit leapt
to the difference:
perceived why no awe could measure
that brief day’s endless length,
why among all the tortured
One only is “King of Grief.”

The oneing, she saw, the oneing
with the Godhead opened Him utterly
to the pain of all minds, all bodies
—sands of the sea, of the desert—
from first beginning
to last day. The great wonder is
that the human cells of His flesh and bone
didn’t explode
when utmost Imagination rose
in that flood of knowledge. Unique
in agony, Infinite strength, Incarnate,
empowered Him to endure
inside of history,
through those hours when he took to Himself
the sum total of anguish and drank
even the lees of that cup:

within the mesh of the web, Himself
woven within it, yet seeing it,
seeing it whole. Every sorrow and desolation
He saw, and sorrowed in kinship.

Holy Saturday:

Sicut Cervus (Palestrina)

Easter:

The Exsultet from the Easter Vigil:

Bach’s 4th Cantata:

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On sticking with the local church

A whole extra day to get a post in this month, and I still nearly didn’t, but here we are. This may or may not end up being a section in the very long research project I’m buried in right now, so I don’t mind sharing it. Consider this a third post in the “research essays minus the essay with just the quotes” series.

The word of God is not dependent on the integrity of the vessels bearing it, and that’s good news.… Maybe that’s happened to you with someone who maybe baptized you or helped you through deep depression, and you may wonder if this means that everything you learned from that person is as fraudulent as he or she turned out to be. Not necessarily. There were, without doubt, people in the first century who heard the gospel first from Judas Iscariot. After his treachery and then suicide, these people may have wondered if their own faith was a sham. But what they responded to, if they responded in faith, was not to Judas but the message he delivered, and that message stands regardless of the motives of the messenger (Philippians 1:15-18). But this does not mean that the integrity of the witnesses to the word is of no importance. As a matter of fact, Jesus said that the world would see the authenticity — the integrity — of his message on the basis of the love his followers would have for one another (John 13:35), and the lack of this sort of authenticity leads to the nations reviling God himself (Romans 2:24).
(The Courage to Stand, Russell Moore, pp. 129 and 130)

. . . and yet I stay: “It is still a sinful church — how could it be otherwise? — but the words of its prophets and apostles have led me to this sanctuary, and I could dare to imagine it as home, a place where there is no ‘other’.”
(Kathleen Norris, The Cloister Walk, p. 46)

Jesus loves lots of people. He loves the man you cheated and the woman you made fun of behind her back. Little sins, you say. Little wounds in the heart of Christ. Think about it. He wants his own to have abundance of life, and you steal from that abundance — maybe not money or goods, but the peace and trust and love that are theirs by right… and what do we learn in Matthew 25? that Christ Our Lord is a judge. A judge. And he is also the injured party! Look at the text. Do you think he does not feel the hunger of loneliness, the nakedness of abandonment, the prison of faithfulness that is not answered with faithfulness?
(Marilynne Robinson, Jack, pp. 222 and 3)

   Theological fine-tuning, some of it unfortunately inspired by Augustine himself, has led us to forget that Christian worship is not, in the words of Margaret Miles, “primarily a gathering of the like-minded” but a gathering of people “to be with one another in the acknowledgment that human existence originates in and is drawn towards love.”
   Even when I find church boring, I tried to hold this in mind as a possibility: like all the other fools who have dragged themselves to church on Sunday morning, including the pastor, I’m there because I need to be reminded that love can be at the center of all things, if we will only keep it there. The worship service will most likely not offer an aesthetically pleasing experience, great theological insight, or emotional release, although any and all of those things are possible, and precious on the rare occasions when they occur. 
(Kathleen Norris, The Cloister Walk, pp. 346-7)

Here is a marvel: from within these bowels [of the church] comes a continuous witness, sounds of praise, the totally unexpected word “resurrection”, talk of healing and forgiveness, preaching and praying. And all this in the bowels, from among men and women who are unashamed and unembarrassed to call the failed and sometimes unscrupulous, flawed and not infrequently scandalous men and women who are their “brothers and sisters” saints.
(Practice Resurrection, Eugene H. Peterson, p. 82)

“ ‘Remember me’,” he said, “is what Jesus asked of us. ‘Do this to remember me.’ We think about remembering as looking back on times past, a nostalgic recollection of something that has gone now. But remember is also the opposite of dismember. When something has been broken apart, dismembered, we look at the broken pieces and remember how it used to be, and put it back together, make it whole again. 
… The heart of illness is imbalance. Things out of balance go wrong very quickly — that’s why we have to keep the discipline of rest and recreation as well as work and prayer, eating and enjoying ourselves as well as fasting and disciplining ourselves. You have to get the balance right. 
… Now, you probably recall, from your studies of Saint Augustine — um. . . the African one — that he taught his catechumens, when they received the bread, the host of the Eucharist, to respond to the words ‘The body of Christ’ by saying ‘Amen’, as we all do. But he told them, ‘Let your Amen be for I am.’
   “See? ‘I am the body of Christ.’ That’s. . . quite momentous. But it’s true enough. We — you, me, all of us together — we are the body of Christ. 
… The body of Christ — yes, we may be; broken, we certainly are. And we may be limping along to begin with, but when Christ takes us into his hands he breaks us again — tears us to shreds at times. He has to grab hold of our pride. . . arrogance. . . contempt. . . cynicism. . . hardheartedness. . . He has to break those things up, or there would never be any humility, no compassion, no gratitude. 
   “So the body of Christ is broken — in the bread, on the cross, and in the community; it’s dismembered, it isn’t well. That word ‘well’ — it’s an old word, and it means the same as ‘whole’. 
   “And what Jesus is saying — at least, I think this is what he’s saying — is that as we gather together like this, suffer him to break us like this, then Christ, who’s been dismembered in crucifixion and in sin, is re-membered in our gathering, made whole in our community and our communion. Comm-union, comm-unity: they mean being as one together, being reconciled in a fellowship of humility and forgiveness. The brokenness of his body (and we are his body) is healed in our love, in our common life which is his love, his life, in us. 
   “So — do you see? There is a balance. We are made whole in Christ, but also — I hardly dare to say it — Christ is made whole in us. 
   “When we refuse to love and accept one another, when we break the communion of love, we dismember the body of Christ. When we come here in the Mass, embrace each other humbly and honestly in the kiss of peace, kneel in humility to receive Christ’s body in the host, a miracle of healing happens. When the brokenness of Christ’s body touches the brokenness of our souls, the blood of his love flows from one to the other, mingling our life with his. We become one body, one blood with him. We are accepted. We are forgiven. We are healed.
   “It’s about maintaining a state of balance in the community as a body — like breathing in and breathing out — the humility to receive from him and the generosity to give of ourselves.”
(Penelope Wilcock, Remember Me, pp. 42-45) 

[Y]ou who are old and young, male and female, short and tall, plain and attractive, joyful and sad, healthy and sick, sinful and graced, you — yes you — you are the body of Christ. More vulnerable than the bread in my hands is the child of God who stands before me to receive the real presence of Jesus. We ought [to] be even more concerned about dropping the people in our lives than we should be about dropping crumbs of the sacred bread. We are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor 6:19), and we could light a sanctuary lamp to honour the divine presence in us indwelling.
(Gloria Patri: The History and Theology of the Lesser Doxology, Nicholas Ayo pp. 94-5)

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Some stitchery

I have my first cold of the year, and it’s mild so far so I have the energy as well as the time for a post! And in case last month’s post left you wondering, I did not get locked out on Christmas Eve.

I made a skirt with some wool from the thrift store. The piece was something like 60 inches wide by a yard and five-eighths (and that will be my one concession to five-eighthses here), and I used up almost the entire thing — the waistband is pieced, asymmetrically because I’m bad at measuring — and I based it on 1890s skirts, though I didn’t do any actual research, so it’s very very twirly. I embroidered it in some wool yarn I had lying around. It doesn’t have a hem yet, but other than that it’s finished.

And I did all of it except the waistband on the machine! (Have I mentioned yet that I have a sewing machine? I’m not very good at it yet, and have practiced very intermittently, but this skirt hasn’t fallen apart yet.)

This post has many pictures and they may or may not be sideways, sorry about that.

It drapes very nicely on the hanger.

With the waistband up, in the usual way (though I prefer having it tucked under, actually), it almost makes me look tall.

With just a little padding underneath to hold the pleats out at the back, you can almost be tricked into thinking it’s a fairly straight skirt, even with the embroidery disappearing into what must be deep folds. You’ll have to take my word for it, but when you twirl all the fullness whooshes out dramatically and it’s very fun.

Here I’m just finishing a twirl, and the pocket slit has come open. My only tie-on pocket, still, is the bright yellow and blue one, not good at being invisible under dark skirts like these, but I have yet to remedy that.

With a removable piece of interfacing pinned on around the hem, it stands out quite a bit more and shows the embroidery off better.

Closeups of embroidery:

Now, before my brain fogs up for a week, I should write a bit. Maybe I’ll be back next month?

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How to Have A Merry Christmas Eve in Twenty-Eight Easy Steps

This happened on Christmas Eve 2020, but last year I also found myself locked out of my apartment after dark on Christmas Eve, as part of another long story. It’ll be interesting to see what happens this year. . .

1. Be stressed out about the choir’s performance at church to the exclusion of all other considerations.

2. Carpool to church with your sister, who is fortunately on top of things and makes sure the necessary doors are locked and so on.

3. Nearly destroy the choir by bursting into laughter in the middle of a piece, thanks to one of those thoughts that’s always way more funny when you’re in the wrong place to laugh, but narrowly avoid it. 

4. Halfway through the bit where you’re just standing in front of everybody doing nothing, have the sudden idea to invite Jacob to dinner at your family’s house that night.

5. At the end of the service act on this idea by asking both parents if that would be too much spontaneity.

   a. You have talked yourself into getting that far by asking what you have to lose by asking. You will find out.

   b. Your parents consider the idea and agree that it wouldn’t be too much spontaneity.

6. Formally invite the guest in question.

7. Forget to inform your parents that he said yes.

8. Forget to get your sister’s opinion of this idea or to tell her that he accepted the invitation, or both.

9. Arrange that he should follow you and your sister (still carpooling) to the family home, as your parents have disappeared.

10. Arrange with your sister (actually she does most of the arranging) that she should run back to your place to get her things, and the phone she forgot to bring with her. You will wait at the church, she’ll pick you up, you’ll go to supper. Easy, right.

11. Wait twenty minutes for her to come back, in increasing dismay. 

12. She will return in great perturbation, coming into the foyer to catch the tail end of a conversation on how it’s okay when things aren’t perfect. 

13. You’ll leave. Once you’re in the car, she will combust. She only wanted a quiet night at home! You didn’t tell her this random guy was showing up! She just wanted to eat pork pie and go to bed early! And she didn’t forget her phone — she dropped it in the snow underneath your car and it was there the entire time you were at church! Where’s a bag of rice when you need it! People tease her about always having one but she doesn’t and now she needs it and you brought some guy to supper without consulting her!

14. Turn onto 212 and get stuck behind someone who goes 40 to 45 mph all the way to the stoplight at 7 in Monte. “Goodwill to men” does not extend to slow drivers. 

   a. Appease the wrathful goddess with offerings of sea salt chocolate bark.

15. Arrive at the house at last, remembering too late that the Wise Student would have warned Jacob before now that the “Monte house” is ten miles outside of town on two gravel roads.

16. Semi-pleasant theological and bookish shenanigans will ensue. Enjoy them while they last.

17. Go to leave, discovering that as you carpooled with your sister, you have no car to go home in, though you do have your own car’s key. 

18. Borrow your mother’s van. 

19. Get all the way home (noting things like “good, the Streblows finally went to bed on time”), only to discover that, as happened once before, your sister essentially locked your door and drove away, leaving you on the outside and your own house key and phone inside. This time, fortunately, you have a car key. (Michael Barrone keeps reminding you that it’s one degree with windchills of up to ten below; and you are in the wrong shoes for walking in all the snow.) 

20. Proceed to the parsonage, hoping there’s still a light on. Great, the Streblows finally went to bed on time. Observe the lighted living room window.

21. Ring the doorbell, a small girl with nowhere to lay her head on Christmas Eve. 

22. When Pastor answers, break down laughing, in keeping with tradition. Borrow his phone to call your dad (who answers, a bit worried to be getting a call from Pastor at nine-thirty on Christmas Eve night). 

23. Arrange to meet your sister at the halfway point, to take her key.

24. While driving, hear a small “tack!” noise. Your ivory ring will have cracked. 

25. Wait for your sister while listening to Tomorrow Shall Be My Dancing Day courtesy of Stephen Cleobury and the BBC Choir. 

26. Take the ring from an inexplicably cranky sister and turn around.

27. Arriving at home the second time, narrowly miss running into your own van, having forgotten that you can’t just park in your usual spot, being, as it were, already parked there.

28. Go inside and crash into bed. 

The true Spirit of Christmas, after all, is things not going the way people planned them to. Also being locked out in the middle of the night, really. I’m sure Mary had not planned on giving birth in a cave, possibly without even a midwife, in an unfamiliar town that had just finished making clear exactly how much she wasn’t wanted there. We got off fairly easy in comparison.

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Don’t ask me future-related questions

I’ve been meaning to write a blog post for ages; if it comes to that, this year my intention was to write a blog post each month. How well that worked out you can see.

A common saying of mine over the last couple of years has been “Don’t ask me future-related questions!” because so many things have been up in the air constantly. Those areas range from “what I plan to do this week” to “where I see myself in several years”. It stopped being a useful question a long time ago.

My main undertaking this year has been a giant research project, which is slowly shifting from the researching to the writing (nonfiction) side of things. I’ve been enjoying it no end, but a consistent difficulty in getting anything done on it has been that I can’t follow the first bit of advice given to students everywhere and make myself a Weekly Schedule. The thought of being able to expect that if I write down today what I plan to do two weeks from now, it will happen according to my plan, has become a foreign idea to me.

Partly this is due to the fact that, within a week, no two days have the same work schedule, so that while Mondays may all look the same as each other, Mondays never look the same as Tuesdays which never look the same as Wednesdays, etc. This makes it very hard to make resolutions like “Every day at 9:00 a.m. I will sit down and write for one hour.” It’s very hard to achieve consistency when you can’t get up in the morning and repeat what you did the day before. 

The unpredictability of my body has also been a hindrance. I can’t count on having energy tomorrow, even if I do today and have had for the last 3 weeks (that actually makes it more likely something will go wrong). This means that if I reach the limit of what I can get done in a day, I can’t just set the rest aside to do tomorrow; for all I know, it might be a fortnight before I pick it up again. I may have a day off, and make an ambitious to-do list in anticipation, and then wake up in the morning with a head full of fog, or a body whose needs are going to need to come first for whatever reason all day, or plain fatigue (doesn’t sound like much, but trying to write clear argumentative essays while tired is like pushing string), and get nothing done. I might wake up the next morning bounding with energy (comparatively) and spend it all on a work shift before I get a chance to do anything around the house with it. 

There is also the not inconsiderable fact that beginning in May the construction yard next door to me, which previously went and did its business elsewhere, started tearing things up and tearing things down and building giant new buildings, working 14-hour shifts six days a week, and even if I became miraculously insensitive to noise (I did not), the fact that Google Docs frequently had to stop taking dictation because there was too much background noise would have been an obstacle in itself. They seem to be coming to the end of that project, just in time for winter and shortened days and a notorious lack of energy. (I have started taking vitamin D, which worked such a miracle in the first two weeks that I was the first person to church one Sunday, which never happens — but I have also been told that the difference gets less drastic as your body gets used to it, and it’s been nearly a month now, so even though most days I have had energy, I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.)

The document containing what I have written so far is currently 25,000 words, which, when I had fewer responsibilities and things, I could have done in a month. Maybe six weeks. Instead it has taken me almost all year. Nonfiction takes longer to write than fiction, at least for me, but still, remembering the rate at which I used to churn out books and papers, it’s frustrating.

This is where the irony always stings me. One of the great lessons of this project so far has been that if anything gets done, it is not me doing it, it is God. So the fact that I cannot count on myself to make things happen even on the small scale of five hundred words a day or whatever goal I might wish I could set myself, is exactly in keeping with the broader scope of the thing. If I cannot count on myself to be able to drum up the energy or make the time to get things done, and yet nevertheless, however slowly, they do keep getting done, the only logical conclusion is that I am not working alone — more than that, I am not even the main actor. 

Learning this lesson is (of course!) as frustrating as any other part of it, and I can’t claim to be done yet, but there it is: something a bit deeper than a blog post on “10 tips for making productive study time as a working adult” or something. (Not, of course, that I would have written any posts like that anyway.)

Have I mentioned that this is frustrating? I know my unreliability bothers other people, and it bothers me just as much. It’s no fun, but perhaps if you’ve been dealing with obstacles to your writing (or other sub-creating) this will let you know you’re not alone.

The laundry needs switching now, and then I have to put dishes away (I have done dishes three times this week! that’s the magic of Vitamin D for you), and I do work today, so this will probably be all the time I have for writing — but hey, at least I got a blog post in while it was still this month. No promises about next. . . .

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. . . hidden waters run to far green pastures.”

“For there is hope for a tree, 
   When it is cut down, that it will sprout again,
And its shoots will not fail.
   Though its roots grow old in the ground
And its stump dies in the dry soil,
   At the scent of water it will flourish
And put forth sprigs like a plant.
   But man dies and lies prostrate.
Man expires, and where is he?
   As water evaporates from the sea,
And a river becomes parched and dried up,
   So man lies down and does not rise.
Until the heavens are no longer,
   He will not awake nor be aroused out of his sleep.”
(Job 14:7-12)

I brought home two green willow branches from my grandmother’s after Thanksgiving, and kept them in a pot of water to see if they would grow. I have pretty good luck getting things to start growing, but they usually die shortly thereafter. They sprouted roots early on, and then I went away to a retreat, coming back late on Christmas Eve. 

“[The righteous man] will be like a tree planted by streams of water,
   Which yields its fruit in its season
And its leaf does not wither;
   And in whatever he does, he prospers.”
(Psalm 1:3)

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
   But desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”
Proverbs 13:12

“A garden enclosed is my sister, my bride— 
   A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up.”
(Song of Songs 4:12) 

   She thought of the hardness and the coldness she had cultivated over the years and wondered if they were the mask she wore or if the mask had become her self. If the longing inside her for kindness, for warmth, for compassion, was the last seed of hope for her, she didn’t know how to nurture it or if it could live.
   Unable to guess the answer, she asked, “Who am I, that you should love me?”
   “You are My Queen,” said Eugenides. She sat perfectly still, looking at him without moving as his words dropped like water into bare earth.
   “Do you believe me?” he asked.
   “Yes,” she answered.
   “Do you love me?”
   “Yes.”
   “I love you.”
   And she believed him.
(The Queen of Attolia, page 359)

“‘Behold, God is my salvation,
   I will trust and not be afraid;
For the LORD God is my strength and song,
   And He has become my salvation.’
Therefore you shall draw water joyfully
   From the springs of salvation.”
(Isaiah 12:2-3)

“The wilderness and the desert will be glad,
   And the Arabah will rejoice and blossom;
Like the crocus
   It will blossom profusely
And rejoice with rejoicing and shout of joy.
   The glory of Lebanon will be given to it,
The majesty of Carmel and Sharon.
   They will see the glory of the LORD,
The majesty of our God.

   Encourage the exhausted, and strengthen the feeble.
Say to those with anxious heart,
   ‘Take courage, fear not.
Behold, your God will come with vengeance;
   The recompense of God will come,
But He will save you.’
   Then the eyes of the blind will be opened
And the ears of the deaf will be unstopped.
   Then the lame will leap like a deer,
And the tongue of the mute will shout for joy,
   For waters will break forth in the wilderness
And streams in the Arabah.
   The scorched land will become a pool
And the thirsty ground springs of water;
   In the haunt of jackals, its resting place,
Grass becomes reeds and rushes. . . .
   And the ransomed of the LORD will return
And come with joyful shouting to Zion,
   With everlasting joy upon their heads.
They will find gladness and joy,
   And sorrow and sighing will flee away.
(Isaiah 35:1-7, 10)

“What is the scent of water?”
“Renewal. The goodness of God coming down like dew. . . .”
(The Scent of Water, Elizabeth Goudge, p. 326)

“Your dead will live; 
   Their corpses will rise. 
You who lie in the dust, awake and shout for joy, 
   For your dew is as the dew of the dawn, 
And the earth will give birth to the departed spirits.”
(Isaiah 26:19)

“Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
    And come along.
For behold, the winter is past,
    The rain is over and gone.
The flowers have already appeared in the land.”
(Song of Songs 2:10-12) 

“‘The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; and for that reason the holy Child shall be called the Son of God. And behold, even your relative Elizabeth has also conceived a son in her old age; and she who was called barren is now in her sixth month. For nothing will be impossible with God.’ And Mary said, ‘Behold, the handmaid of the Lord; may it be done to me according to your word.’
. . . ‘And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what had been spoken to her by the Lord.’ And Mary said, ‘My soul exalts the Lord. . . .’”
(Luke 1:35-37, 45-46)

“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.”
(John 15:4-5)

“But when the kindness of God our Saviour and His love for mankind appeared, He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneraton and renewing by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Saviour, so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.”
(Titus 3:4-7)

“The LORD will guide you continually
   And satisfy your desire in scorched places
   And make your bones strong,
And you shall be like a watered garden,
   Like a spring of water,
   Whose waters do not fail.”
(Isaiah 58: 11)

“Then he showed me a river of the water of life, clear as crystal, coming from the throne of God and of the Lamb, in the middle of its street. On either side of the river was the tree of life, bearing twelve kinds of fruit, yielding its fruit every month; and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations.” 
(Revelation 22:1-2)

C. S. Lewis, “What the Bird Said Early In the Year” 

I heard in Addison’s Walk a bird sing clear:
This year the summer will come true. This year. This year.

Winds will not strip the blossom from the apple trees
This year, nor want of rain destroy the peas.

This year time’s nature will no more defeat you,
Nor all the promised moments in their passing cheat you.

This time they will not lead you round and back
To Autumn, one year older, by the well-worn track.

This year, this year, as all these flowers foretell,
We shall escape the circle and undo the spell.

Often deceived, yet open once again your heart,
Quick, quick, quick, quick!—the gates are drawn apart.

When I went into the willows’ room to check on them, I saw that they had sprouted new leaves and some had catkins too. Leaves and catkins on a willow branch on Christmas Eve!

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“Below the deserts…

Think of this as a research paper minus the paper, with just the quotes. I started putting this together ages ago, when I first read the book which bookends this collection, but never quite put the finishing touches to it till I was desperate to have one post go out this September. (For those of you counting at home, I have reached four years living on my own and haven’t been found dead even once yet.)

   “But there are those who at times can reach a world consciousness of suffering,” David went on. “A man who had been in a concentration camp talked to me about it once. He said that for a moment or two there can come to you, through your own suffering, a consciousness of the suffering of the whole world.”
   “How horrible!” said Sally.
   “On the contrary, he said that it was only those moments that made it possible to go on.”
   “We can’t share our particular Things, but deep down somewhere that can link us together,” said Sally.
   “That’s the idea.”
   “But I expect that only great suffering, like that of the man you talked to, would let one in,” said Sally. “Not just the little silly things that fortunate people have.”
   “I think the little things could let us in, too, if we knew the way to let them,” said David. “Only we don’t know the way. If we did, if we could all of us attain to that sort of world consciousness all the time, instead of only the best of us at rare moments, it might yet save the world.”
   “From war?” asked Sally.
   “Or through it. What a conversation for a homecoming day!”
(Elizabeth Goudge, The Heart of the Family, page 37)

“It must often be so, Sam, when things are in danger: some one has to give them up, lose them, so that others may keep them.” (Frodo, right at the end of The Lord of the Rings)

“For it is the point of all deprivation that it sharpens the idea of value; and, perhaps, this is, after all, the reason of the riddle of death. In a better world, perhaps, we may permanently possess, and permanently be astonished at possession. In some strange estate beyond the stars we may manage at once to have and to enjoy. But in this world, through some sickness at the root of psychology, we have to be reminded that a thing is ours by its power of disappearance. With us the prize of life is one great, glorious cry of the dying; it is always “morituri te salutant.” At the four corners of our human temple of happiness stand a lame man pointing to one road, and a blind man worshipping the sun, a deaf man listening for the birds, and a dead man thanking God for his creation.” (G. K. Chesterton, “On Being Moved”)

Christ walks the world again, His lute upon His back,
His red robe rent to tatters, His riches gone to rack,
The wind that wakes the morning blows His hair about His face,
His hands and feet are ragged with the ragged briar’s embrace,
For the hunt is up behind Him and His sword is at His side…
Christ the bonny outlaw walks the whole world wide,
Singing: “Lady, lady, will you come away with Me,”
Lie among the bracken and break the barley bread?
We will see new suns arise in golden, far-off skies,
For the Son of God and Woman hath not where to lay His head.” 
(Dorothy L. Sayers, Desdichado)

“The reader cannot even begin to see the sense of a story that may well seem to him a very wild one, until he understands that to this great mystic his religion was not a thing like a theory but a thing like a love affair.” (G. K. Chesterton, St Francis of Assisi)

“God lives in weakness.” (Regina Doman, The Shadow of the Bear)

Faithful cross, thou sign of triumph,
Now for us the noblest tree,
None in foliage, none in blossom
None in fruit thy peer may be,
Symbol of the world’s redemption
For the weight that hung on thee!
(Pange Lingua Gloriosi: Venantius Honorius Clementianus Fortunatus, before 609 A. D.; tr. J. M. Neale)

“And He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.’ Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor. 12:8-10)

“In a society of efficiency and success, your life, marked by the “humility” and frailty of the lowly, of empathy with those who have no voice, becomes an evangelical sign of contradiction.” (Homily of Benedict XVI, Candlemas 2013)

“Though I am able to do nothing else in this life, except only seek, my life seeming to others a vie manquee, yet it will not be so, because what I seek is the goodness of God that waters the dry places. And water overflows from one dry patch to another, and so you cannot be selfish in digging for it.” (The Scent of Water, Elizabeth Goudge)

“In the War I disliked the after-effects of wounds and gas intensely,” said Hilary. “When you are burned, and can’t get your breath, and are afraid you are going blind, it is impossible to pray. And then one day, with great difficulty, I suddenly put into practice and knew as truth what of course I had always known theoretically, that if pain is offered to God as prayer, then pain and prayer are synonymous. A sort of substitution takes place that is like the old story of Beauty and the Beast. The utterly abominable Thing that prevents your prayer becomes your prayer. and you know what prayer is, Mother. It’s all of a piece, the prayer of a mystic or of a child, adoration or intercession, it’s all the same thing; whether you feel it or not, it is union with God in the deep places where the fountains are. Once you have managed the wrenching effort of substitution, the abominable Thing, while remaining utterly detestable for yourself, becomes the channel of grace for others, and so the dearest treasure that you have. and if it happens to be a secret treasure — something that you need not speak about to another — then that’s all the better. Somehow the secrecy of it increases its value.”
(Elizabeth Goudge, The Heart of the Family, page 240)

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Whatever the reverse of survivorship bias is

Even in periods we have surviving artifacts from, we know that what survived is only a fraction of what actually existed. Moth and rust destroy, metal gets melted down and re-used, and so on. We are dust, and so, at the end of the day, are books, pottery, anything made of wood, and quite a lot of iron. Where articles do survive, it’s often because there was something unusual about them or their circumstances; a wedding dress carefully preserved and not worn to death, for example, or a painting kept in a sheltered nook of a building that manages not to get bombed to death, or bog bodies.

For the vast majority of history, fabric has been extremely expensive to produce, and extremely valuable. Even the richest people pieced things. Stuff got worn and mended and patched and handed down and finally cut up and turned into rags, which exist to be used till they fall apart, until what once was your For Very Best Occasions tunic ends its days scrubbing out a pot.

I’ve been thinking lately about how one of my favourite projects ever will not survive for future generations to remember.

When I was very very new to the SCA, and hadn’t quite learned How To Research for early medieval clothes yet, I made my very first garb with an abundance of effort and care and expense — and some howlingly obvious inaccuracies.

My next cyrtel was going to be better. I bought good wool for it, researched the living daylights out of it using better sources, and at the beginning of 2016, had a new and much better cyrtel. It was far from perfect; I had ignored the advice to round off the bottoms of the gores (unlike my first, it had gores only at the sides and not front and back), resulting in a wildly uneven hem. While attempting to cut out the pieces, very sleepily on a Sunday evening, I had started to cut one of them in half, and had to stitch it up quickly before proceeding. But it was so comfortable and swooshy (I had cut the gores extremely wide) and looked good apart from the hem. I got a lot of compliments on it at events.

This set of photos credit Olivia White

In 2020, while working on the Entwife project (you can find many more details and pictures of it elsewhere on here), I turned the 11th-century cyrtel into an early 13th-century sideless gown by taking the sleeves off and turning the edges of the big armholes in just a bit. Somewhere between these two dates I had also tried to do something about the hem situation, and now it was mostly a different kind of unevenness, and longer on the whole. As a sideless, it looked even better than it had in its first iteration.

This set of photos credit Ariana Streblow
I mean, look at the way it drapes — it’s so much like the pictures!

It was also easy to throw on over anything and call that enough for going out in public, and I found myself wearing it a lot the next year — between dislocating a rib, the fatigue that really kicked in that summer, and spending a lot more of my time either rushing to work with barely any time to spare or lying around at home being miserable. I put holes in it from tramping in the woods last fall; wore a hole in it from the way my bag of work stuff rubs against my back; gave it many tiny stains from food or blood or messy projects; yellowed the top portion from sweating; muddied the hem with early spring expeditions. . . and finally, a few weeks ago, shortly after attacking the hem for the third time and finally getting it right, spilled banana juice down the front of it while making banana ice cream (when a banana has been frozen and then thawed all the sugars come out and it’s very brown and sticky). Nothing got the stain out, not even stain-stick and throwing it in the wash. Felting it did do the fabric itself some good, as it counteracted the tendency of it in some places to be getting concerningly thin. It also shortened it by a few inches.

Now, even in its increasingly shabby state, up to this point I could wear it to work and people would say what a nice dress it was (they do the same thing with my very oldest t-shirt — without fail, when I run out of other clean shirts and wear it in public, people say how nice it is and is it new? as if it weren’t disintegrating before their eyes; which is not exactly an incentive to keep on top of the laundry). But this called for a new approach. . . and so please meet the third version of this garment:

This set of photos by me, with the camera on my laptop, turned sideways.
It looks not unlike a paenula, a cloak shape that goes back to the lower classes of the Roman empire.
It’s got a nice gnomish sort of point in the back, the way the top of the original arm and shoulder seams meet.

I sewed up one armhole, leaving the other open to be the hood opening, felted a scrap piece of the original fabric which I still had hanging around in the stash and used it to fill in the original neckline, cut and bound arm slits, and added a pleat at the back of the neck to keep it from hanging directly off my head when the hood is up (this is a fairly heavy garment).

Since I wear the sideless so much, I will need a replacement for it in short order — I’ve been doing very well so far this summer, but that will change, and making clothes takes time — so I wouldn’t be too surprised if there were another thirteenth-century-garb-related post on here eventually.

I realized only after finishing that it’s a lot like Miss Rumphius’ cloak, only a lighter green. And I could easily open up what was once the side seam and give it a button or two. . .

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Sing ye sweetly until the song it must end, part III

Olivia woke me in the morning far earlier than either of us wanted to be up (and I had a sore throat, which is usually a sign of doom, but it didn’t get worse throughout the day and I turned out to be fine), but we had to go to church. On previous visits of mine, she had still been going to the church nearby in town, but over the last year had gravitated more toward a church she thought she would probably join, some distance away. Joel was also coming with us.

Let me restate that: Joel was also coming with us! To be going to church with him was a sign of great growth on his part and meant great joy to us. The one doubt in our minds came from the fact that he had been up very late through the night before after the concert, and might not manage to be up and  dressed by the time we needed to pick him up. However, he’s been coming so regularly that Olivia is quite good at wrangling him in that highly specific situation as well as all the other everyday ones she encounters being his coworker. While we sat in her car outside his house, waiting to see whether he would respond to any of her texts, she regaled me with stories about times his phone has been dead or she has needed to break in to wake him.

At exactly the moment she had predicted he would come out (the latest possible), he showed up, dressed and nominally awake but about as dead as you would expect. Olivia was the only one of us with anything like her full faculties about her, so it was a good thing she was driving.

The morning was misty and cool, a pleasant contrast to the heat of the week before. We drove for a long time between bluffs and along the river, while Joel and I slowly woke up and he eventually reached a point of enough energy to kick the back of my seat.

 Once at church, we found quite a few of the regular families missing, and so although we did not sit in the back row of the sanctuary, we were in the back relative to most of the other people there. 

The music at that church leaves somewhat to be desired, as Olivia has observed before, but otherwise it was not too bad. Their young and excitable pastor got up to preach, and, with a nervous smile fixed upon his face, explained that since he has been preaching through the gospel of Mark for the last two and a half years, ever since he first came there, they had finally arrived at the end. or was it the end? His sermon today was going to be on the disputed portion of Mark chapter 16.

The nervous smile, and occasional anxious rambling and interrupting himself, remained throughout the whole sermon. I don’t think he needed to be quite that worried; he laid out the opposing viewpoints and the reasons for them quite well, in spite of everything. and his conclusion, that God preserves scripture no matter what, was of course quite sound. 

To make a point about tension and the way we expect it to be resolved, he mentioned it one point that last week he had been listening to a fugue — the three of us perked up at this good sign, and Joel waved his fist in the air approvingly — “Ah, I see the musicians in the room know what I’m talking about,” he said. “Bach’s Toccata in something minor I think?” He ended his sermon by asking, nearly word for word, who would be a witness for my Lord. (Olivia got quite twitchy.)

After church, I met the first friend Olivia made in that church, who announced that I was going to be moving out there to help them in a combined book and coffee shop. There did not seem to be much left for me to say about it.

 We stopped at a coffee shop on the way home, and while we sat in the drive-through the sprinkles of rain turned to sleet. By the time we got back in town, and were having lunch at Culver’s, it was snowing fairly determinedly.

 Olivia had been lamenting the fact that she could not go to Angela’s last band concert, possibly the last ever, because she had a violin lesson scheduled for exactly that hour in the afternoon. Joel and I, as well as joining forces to encourage her to eat, agreed that she ought to ask about rescheduling it. What did she have to lose, after all? and she stood to gain a great deal. Back in our dorm room, she finally decided to go for it.

 2 hours and 15 minutes later, she woke me up from a wonderfully restoring nap to tell me that we were going to a concert. It was still snowing. By this time it had become clear that this was a real snow storm, which would probably give us the already-accumulated three inches over again before it was done. we bundled up — I having to borrow socks, a coat, and mittens, as I had not brought any of these with me, on a day that seemed like forever ago, when it was so hot that I was sticking to the steering wheel — and set out through the frosty wasteland for the band concert hall.

 I had never been to a band concert before; the  little band music I had heard had all been for marching bands, none of them very good, and I had suffered through many an afternoon of listening to the SMSU band rehearse while doing music librarian stuff, which was quite enough for me. Olivia assured me that their repertoire was usually good.

 This concert, which came right after a jazz concert in the same space, was also the band conductor’s final concert before retirement. (She was the conductor who had taken over the choir for the last year.) That made this another very emotional performance for most everyone involved. The theatre was packed, and as it was another of those where alumni were invited to perform in a couple of pieces, here and there throughout the audience you would find a perfectly ordinary-looking person sitting down with a trumpet or a French horn or something in his lap.

Between two pieces in the middle of the concert, an alumna came out and presented flowers to the retiring conductor and said lovely things about her legacy in championing the cause of music at the school over the past decades, and shaping the lives of the people who had passed through the program, which made many people cry. 

If the type of person who made the decision to cut the liberal arts programs had also been the type of person to come to concerts, this weekend would have demonstrated to them abundantly the value of the arts, particularly music, to the point where they would have needed a stronger defence than “but money!” for lopping off half of the entire university. For some reason you don’t see this sort of thing happening around strictly technological or scientific events. Business majors rarely find their topics of study moving them and a room full of other people to tears. Political science students don’t often find themselves drawn together into a sense of unity around a common activity with people they would ordinarily have nothing to do with. But, that sort of person is not the sort of person who goes to concerts (requires too much soul), so of course they were not there and did not see it. (It’s not just me grousing; other people around us in the audience made similar comments both before and after.)

The other highlight of the concert was the world premiere of a piece commissioned by one of the university’s foundations, written with this band in mind. It was called Towards the Stars, and when the composer of it was called up to introduce it, he was revealed to be the nice young man outside the door Ang had stopped to talk to the other night. I have worked with one other living composer of a piece before, which experience did leave me with a bit of a bad taste in my mouth about composers who come to see their works performed. And indeed, when it’s the world premiere of your work in question, we can understand a bit of self-centeredness. But this composer was not like that at all. One of the band members (also a friend of Olivia’s) had come up with the name of the piece, and he mentioned him by name to give the credit where it was due. While the pece was playing he disappeared from the stage and watched from the side one of the theatre doors, in the shadows, seeming but his facial expressions to be quite wrapped up in the music. When it finished and the conductor went to point to him for the applause, she couldn’t at first find him. He had to be called back onto the stage. After that, he blended into the crowd of alumni in the audience, holding a trumpet on his lap, and during the final pieces when the alumni joined the band on stage, he snuck into the trumpet row quite unobtrusively, and joined in all the applause for everyone else with great enthusiasm. 

This concert also concluded with the Alma mater, and afterward, as the lights went up and people stopped crying and started to talk to each other again, in what was becoming quite a pattern, the crowd began to trickle out into the foyer and then brave the wet and windy outdoors for the walk to the reception being held in another building. Olivia and Angela and I went briefly, but soon returned to her dorm. Olivia and I continued on to the ceramics building, where our creations from the day before were not nearly as dry as she had then estimated; having 100% humidity in the air and all the windows being left open probably accounts for that. We also discovered some quite distressing leaks in the ceiling of the room the kiln was in, with water spurting near a light bulb that had been left on, and we ran around turning off switches and putting buckets under drips for a while.

That night we got to go to bed early. It was still snowing.

Monday started off as a more relaxed day, at least for me, once an early-morning meeting with someone on campus was finished. Olivia was trying to listen to an online class on her computer at the same time as packing to leave for the two places she would have to travel to for other musical engagements that week, while asking me about every 10 minutes when I was going to leave. the schools in that City had declared a snow day, and the sky was still gray and threatening. I wanted to wait a bit and see what happened. As I did not work until the following afternoon, I could afford to wait and go back in the evening if I needed to.

 For lunch Olivia made waffles and we had a living room picnic with Angela. At 1:00 we heard the bell ring. Olivia and I grew quiet to listen. We were not entirely surprised when it rang a second time. Ringing 12 times was fairly commonplace by now. A 13th ring made sense. But then it went on again! Whoever was ringing the bell, machine or man, did not stop until it had rung 20 times. And as Olivia immediately ran off for parts unknown, it remains an unsolved mystery.

 After a visit to the Ceramics building to polish up our projects from Saturday, the snow was beginning to melt noticeably and I no longer had excuses to stay. (Olivia may also have reached her limit for being able to put up with me.)  We got road food for me, and hauled all my things out to the car, made sure the car started, and cleaned the snow off it. On our last trip down the hill, the snow was starting to fall off the trees. Great clumps of it fell with a sploosh into the creek or tried to go down the back of our necks. Bits of blue sky and green leaves, suddenly so unfamiliar to us, began to be revealed.

 As I drove, avoiding rush hour in the first city and getting to go around the one that had so terrified me on my way out, and encountering no issues in the third, the sky got lighter and lighter. The further west I went the less snow had fallen, but also the less green the grass was and the fewer buds were on the trees.

 I had an audiobook with me, the radio adaptation of Prince  Caspian, saved from my library’s recent cull, and found myself unexpectedly sobbing as I listened to it. The thought that someday something so good could happen that it swallowed up and undid all the bad things in the entire world and made them seem small in comparison —  and I don’t know about you but I am almost always acutely aware of the variety of evils in the world around us, however comfortable my own life is at the moment —  as depicted in such small precise examples as Aslan restoring youth to a woman who had grown prematurely old teaching mathematics to a pack of unappreciative boys, or healing an old woman on her deathbed, whose niece had been crying about her, suddenly and unexpectedly brought it home to me. Sometimes things seem too good to be true — but then, so did the triumphant return of Aslan seem to be too good to be true to the Narnians who had lived under the Telmarines for ages without any sign of his presence or intervention. Perhaps good things, like the Golden Age of Narnia under the four English children, have to end — but perhaps they do begin again. It is Easter.

Fin.

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